Change your feelings, change your results
By Jude Toyat
That which is like unto itself, is drawn – Law of Attraction
Everything that we do and every emotion we feel is related to our well-being and is made up of energy vibrating at different frequencies.
Even solid objects are made up of vibrational energy fields, including people.
Lower vibrations are associated with limited thoughts, negative emotions, poor health, and lack of spiritual awareness, while higher vibrations generate positive results.
Therefore it is important for us to maintain an optimal level of wellness to ensure a better quality of life.
So how do we raise our personal vibrations?
I know it sounds complex, but it actually can be that simple, at least after my recent interview with energetic life coach Shan K Wong.
“It is crucial for us to consider the things we say think or do which will impact us and the people around us too.
“Positive people are drawn to positive energy, while negative people are drawn to negative energy. Work on creating more positive energy and you will attract more positive experiences that provide improvements and overall abundance in your life,” he explained.
Thoughts lead to words, words lead to feelings, feelings leads to action, and actions lead to results.
“When you change your thinking, you change the way you use the words, and when you change the way you use the words, your feelings will change too,” Wong added.
Becoming a life coach
Before pursuing life coaching as his lifetime career, Wong who was born and bred in Selangor worked in China and Australia for more than 10 years before he decided to return to Malaysia.
“In 1993, I was an IT director at Bristol-Myers Squibb in China before I got promoted to become the regional IT director at the same company in Australia with the responsibility of the implementation of all IT projects in Asia Pacific.
“Looking at our two boys who were growing up at that time, my wife and I decided to come back to Malaysia in 2001,” he said.
For a few years, Wong and his wife did not do much in Sarawak, his wife’s home state, but focused their efforts to designing and building their dream house in Batu Kawa.
In 2005, they opened an Indian restaurant called Sri Shan. After six years, his workers’ permits expired, and unable to find replacements, he decided to close it down in 2012.
“At that time, I also used to own an IT company on top of the restaurant. After two years of operation, I received a letter from Hewlett Packard (HP) and was named the top reseller in Sarawak. I also decided to close it down the same year since I wanted to focus on my training and life coaching business,” he explained.
In 2009, Wong started a consulting company called 3Sixty Deliberation Consulting and since then, he has been focusing on life coaching – his passion.
“I was already interested with the things about the mind since I was 16 years old. I used to practice mind reading with my classmates during my high school years in Selangor,” he said.
The experiential learning centre is located at Jalan Ban Hock, where his old restaurant used to be.
3Sixty Deliberation Consulting focuses on training with experiential learning to create a deliberate desire to achieve an individual goal for personal reasons as well as for corporate.
“We also provide training for government and corporate organisations in leadership, team building, and communication among others. These are the multi areas that we train.
“But, my personal preference is still life coaching which means talking about helping people to increase their energetic levels. Once their energetic levels increase, then all good things will come into their lives; it is what psychiatrists call ‘synchronicity’,” he explained.
Creating synchronicity within
The first part of Wong’s teaching is called releasing and letting go, and covers the act of forgiveness among others. Then, it moves on to a more spiritual level known as the zero limit cleaning method known as Ho’oponopono. It is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.
“Ho’oponopono is basically very simple. For example when people do something stupid to you, in your mind, just tell yourself this: I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you.
“That is the mantra which is actually part of the releasing method. You are not the feeling or emotion, it is only the data in the back of your subconscious mind telling you that the guy said something very bad to you, and you should fight back.
“So now, I am telling my subconscious mind to let it go by saying this mantra and it heals the problem,” he explained, adding that it was also part of a recovery method he used on himself when he was affected by an ocular disease years ago.
“Four years ago, I had an eye problem. I went to an optometrist and he said that the disease cannot be cured and nothing can be done, I just have to live with it.
“I was experiencing it for a week and then he said there was nothing I can do. So, when he said that, what I did was Ho’oponopono.
After dinner, he walked around the garden at his house and began to visualise his eyeballs. “I just did the mantra and asked all those black little things covering my eyes to move to the side. I kept doing it for 20 minutes and after that, when I was aware of it, I looked at the mirror and it’s gone. The whole thing has been gone until today.
“We have always learned to let go of things just that we did not realise it, so it is all a matter of making a shift. Most people teach us that seeing is believing, but to me, believing is seeing. If you believe in something, you will see that thing as what you believe it is,” he added.
Wong also does experiential learning during training where his participants will carry out a exercises accompanied by theories and explanations.
“We also take some time to practice meditation. This has nothing to do with religion; it is spiritual but not religious meditation. Through this, your spiritual being and intuition will come to you, so the more meditation you’re doing, the more intuitive you’ll become.”
Wong also stresses on the importance of feeling that leads into action.
“My programmes also focus on feelings. Feeling is one that one thing you need to change. If the feeling is in alignment with thinking, then it will go into action.
“Feeling is the one that is most important and mostly missing from a lot of teaching as they do not teach you how. So, I also focus on how your heart feels. I’ll teach you how to align your feeling with your belief system.”
It is important for us to understand that we are not the feelings, allowing us to change our feelings.
“For example, if you want to feel angry… wait a minute. If I feel angry, that emotion is not very good for me, so I change the feeling.
“If you want to be happy, then you will be happy. You can change your feeling and emotion can be changed. That is why I call it the Shift. It is just the matter of making the Shift.
It is also important to understand that there are four basic emotional needs; control, approval, separation, and security.
If these four emotional needs are not well-managed, he warns that there’s trouble ahead.
“When you are positive, you will attract all these positive energy and positive things will come to you. If you carry a really strong positive energy, people around you will also change to your positive attributes,” he said, adding that it is always important to keep a positive aura around the heart.
Wong, famous for using the Law of Attraction technique first learned about it in 2004 after he watched a segment on Oprah Winfrey.
“The basic premise of the ‘Law of Attraction’ is that like energy attracts like energy, or we Chinese called it as qi (chi) that explains positive mental attitude attracts positive experiences and circumstances while a negative mental attitude attracts those conditions that we deem negative or unwanted,” he explained.
From 2008, Wong started to buy and read books on the subject including Rhonda Byrne’s ‘The Secret’.
“I did not get any formal training in life coaching and most of my experience and knowledge I shared with people I gotfrom videos and books that I read, as well as online programmes with credible mentors and gurus.
“I can say that it has actually changed my personal life, relationship with my wife, children and friends, as well as health and financial situation. I always feel positive about things that I do,” he added.
When asked how we can apply the ‘Law of Attraction’ in our everyday lives, Wong said, “The first thing you have to do is ask yourself what is it that you want?
“You have to understand that you are not the feeling but a spiritual being that exists in a physical body,” he explained.
On his favourite part of being a life coach, Wong said that he can “contribute positively and change peoples’ lives. Seeing their lives change is brilliant.”
Despite being able to pursue his passion and be a part of other people’s transformations, Wong admits there are some unforgettable challenges as a life coach.
“The biggest challenge with my clients are those who do not want to change. If people refuse to change, even in their own beliefs, it is very hard for me and also for them.
“Also, another challenge is that they cannot welcome their problem because of their beliefs that are so strongly conditioned that they cannot change. If this welcoming is not done and they do not want to accept their problems, then it cannot be changed.”
Wong advises readers to always be in the position to give.
“You can give many things, but most important is to give love. Just like Mother Teresa, just by giving love with lots of compassion, we can help to make the world a better place.
“Plus, every time you give to somebody, you are putting more positive energy into your energetic vibration account. The more you give the more you get back in terms of higher level of energy,” he added.
He also reminded them to always take 100 per cent responsibility for their feelings.
“People may say something stupid to you, but how you feel; you have to take 100 per cent responsibility. This means that you do not have to care too much about it, but not many of us can actually do that,” he added.
Keep updated with Shan K Wong through his Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/wongkshan.
In the meantime, always practice and maintain high energy vibrations which are the foundation of everything that is coming your way.